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Sexpal Adult Dating - Frequently Asked Questions
SexPal is a fun adult dating website. Some of our members
are looking for love. Others are looking for good sex. And some
are looking for both! Whether you're looking for flirts,
swingers, dating adults, one night stands, an affair, or
something else - it's all inside SexPal.
- What is the SexPal website?
Please use the Contact Us form.
- I have a question that's not answered here. What should I do?
It's easy. To update your profile, simply log in with your
username and password. Click on the 'Profile Update' button
and you will be directed to the update page. On this page you
can update all of your details. Click on the 'Save' button to keep
- How can I update my profile?
Your profile can be removed from SexPal using the link 'Remove
my profile' in the bottom of every page. But be sure that's what
you want to do because once you remove your profile, it is
completely deleted from the system as well as all related
account information, your messages, images, etc.
- How can I remove my profile from the website?
You cannot restore a removed profile. If you would like to freeze
the profile or your subscription, please send a request to our
support team using the same email you registered with on your
profile. We'll put your subscription on hold until you are ready to
re-enter the dating adult world.
Just join now for free and log in. Then use the Search menu to
find dating adults using various criteria such as gender, age,
users with a picture only, connection type (fun dating,
partners, flirt, one night stands, swingers) and more.
- How can I find interesting partners on SexPal?
Clicking on the 'Search' link returns all potential partners
meeting your pre-selected criteria. To move forward with the
results, click on the 'next' button at the bottom of the page.
To add pictures or to update an existing image, log on using your
username and password. Click on 'Photos update' and the 'My
Pictures' page appears. Here you can upload a picture from your
computer, mark a picture as 'private' or delete exiting pictures.
- How can I add or update pictures?
You can also use this page to upload several more gallery
NOTE: The main picture is the one that is displayed in the
To recover your user name and password, click on the link
'Forgot?' located on the home page, enter the e-mail address
you registered your SexPal account with, and you will get an e-mail
with your login information.
- I forgot my username or my password. What should I do?
Once you have your search results, you can click on the
member's name or image to view his/her personal profile.
- How can I view someone else's profile?
To contact a member, just write a quick message and press the
'Send message to' button.
An e-mail will be sent to you whenever a new internal message
- How do I know that I received messages if I'm not connected to
You can check on your inbound and outbound messages quickly
and easily. Just follow these steps:
- How can I see who I sent messages to or who sent messages to me?
Click on the link 'Mail' in the main menu at the top of the page.
Then look for 'Outgoing Mail' or 'Incoming'.
Another option is using the links 'I wrote' and 'Wrote me' under
the 'My Relationships' header.
When viewing mail messages, there is a little box on the left of
each message. Check that box and click the 'Delete' button.
- How can I delete messages from my mail box?
To deny a connection request, check the little box on the left
side of the message, and click the 'Block' button to prevent that
member from sending you more messages. You can always
click the 'Enable' button to remove the block.
- How can I block someone I do not want to hear from?
You can add anyone to your friends list easily by clicking on the
link 'Add ... to my list' when viewing his / her profile.
- How do I add a friend to my friends list?
If the person is already on your friends list, you can remove that
person by clicking the 'Remove' link located in the same place.
You're in control of your subscription. If you did not choose the
auto renewal option box when you purchased your
membership, the subscription will not be renewed
automatically. If your account renews manually, we will send
you an email when it's time to renew.
- Is my subscription automatically renewed?
If you did choose the auto renewal option, and you change your
mind later, click on the link in the 'Upgrade' page to turn auto
Check the 'Outgoing' Mail. If you see the unread mail envelope
image, the other party has not read your message yet.
- How do I know if my messages to other members were read?
The #1 rule for getting more contacts is to add pictures! I'm
sure you'd be more interested in contacting someone once you
saw their picture, right? Well it's the same with other members.
- Why don't I have many contact requests?
Also, make sure you respond to messages quickly. People may
lose interest in meeting you if you are unresponsive.
Finally, creating an interesting and challenging personal profile,
with unique answers to open questions, is the best way to get
more people to contact you.
The private picture feature allows you to expose your pictures
only to those you chose. You can select any image as private.
- How does the 'Private Picture' feature work?
There are two scenarios:
1. A member on the website has a private picture or pictures.
When you view their profile you can click the button requesting
permission to see private pictures. The other person will receive
an e-mail, view your profile and, if they choose, can click on the
button that allows you to view their pictures. If permission is
granted, you will receive a confirmation e-mail alerting you that
viewing permission has been granted. Then you can log on to
the SexPal website and view the private pictures of your friend.
2. You have private pictures. Another member of the site views
your profile and asks your permission to view your private
pictures. You will receive an e-mail with that request.
If you choose, you can log on to the SexPal website, view the
requesting friend's profile and click the button to confirm that
this friend may view your private pictures.
if you confirm, the other person accepts an e-mail confirming
the request, they will be able to view your private pictures.
1. Add pictures! We can't over-emphasize the importance of
having one or more pictures attached to your profile!
- Can I get tips for creating an attractive Fun dating and
For best results, attach at least one face picture and one full
body picture. You can mark either picture as private, if you
prefer, and then control who you allow to see it. That way you
can put a really sexy picture up but not make it available to the
2. Write about yourself honestly. If you 'invent' another person,
you run the risk of members being attracted to that fictional
person instead of the real you.
3. Think about how your friends would describe you. Take the
good things they say and turn them into your profile
4. Use enough words to \"sell\" yourself to other members.
Simply writing \"Looking to meet someone\" is not going to get
the job done.
On the other hand, don't write your life's story. Leave
something to talk about when you finally hook up! Plus,
members typically search through a lot of profiles. They don't
have the patience to read a profile that's too long and involved.
5. Be honest about the type of relationship you want (quickie,
swingers, long-term, love and relationship, sex partner and fun,
marriage, chat or email, flirt, one night stand, control game,
couples sex exchange or other).
Don't say you want something you really don't. Saying for
example, \"Looking for a long term relationship\" when you really
want a one night stand is not fair to the other person who is
taking you at your word.
6. Write about what you love with some details: hobbies, music,
animals, and entertainment. For example don't write 'I love
music.' Instead, say something like 'I love rock music from the
7. Write draft text for your personal profile on paper so you can
avoid the pressure of writing in real time at the computer.
Read, edit and rewrite until you are happy. Then you can post
8. If you are stuck, you can get help creating your profile from
the online wizard. This is not as good as your own personal
writing, but at least it gives you a reasonable starting point.
To access the wizard, click on the 'do not know what to write'
link and follow the wizard's lead. You can expand the results
yourself later on.
Here are some profile examples:
'Young, sexy, sensual, hunk is looking for beautiful woman with
a good soul. Prince will pamper you between the sheets and
bring you to ecstasy.'
'Real man, cool, intelligent and sensitive, horny as hell, wants to
make out with you and fulfill mutual fantasies.'
'I'm sexy, sweet, and ready to have with the right man the sex
of my dreams!'
'Discreet, sexy, shapely, gorgeous, married woman is looking to
explode without all the drama. If you're hung and generous, I'm
ready for a discreet relationship.'
- I couldn't find what I was looking for