First of all, the two of you
Before looking for another couple, talk at home: why you want it, what each of you imagines, and what's off limits. Agree too on what happens if one of you feels uncomfortable in the middle - and that stopping without explanations is allowed.
A common path is to start slowly: a getting-to-know-you drink, an evening together without swapping, and only then more - if you both want it.
How to write a couple profile
Say who you are. Ages, what you like, how much experience you have.
Say what you're looking for. A couple, a woman, a man; full swap, same room, or just getting to know each other. The clearer it is, the better the replies fit.
Private photos. You can mark photos as private and show them only to people you choose.
Safety and health
- First meeting in a public place. A café or a bar, and only later, if you both want, somewhere private.
- Tell a friend where you are and with whom, and agree on a short message when all is well.
- Get there and back on your own, so you can leave at any moment.
- Condoms, always. They are the main protection against STIs - carry your own, not only the other side. If you have several partners, get tested regularly.
- Discretion goes both ways. Don't send identifying photos before you trust the other person, and protect their privacy as you would want yours protected.
- Trust your gut. If something in the chat or the meeting doesn't feel right - pressure, stories that don't add up, a request for money - leave. No explanation needed.
Questions about Partner swapping
Only one of us wants it. What now?
Don't start. Partner swapping works only when both partners really want it. You can talk, read, think - but don't push.
What's the difference between swapping and meeting another woman or man?
In partner swapping two couples meet. You can also look for a woman or a man to join you - say in your profile what interests you.
How do we protect our relationship?
Talk before and after, keep to your agreements, and stop if something doesn't feel right to either of you. Your relationship comes before the meeting.
Does dating on SexPal stay discreet?
Yes. You appear under a nickname you choose, and your email address is never shown to any member. You can mark photos as private and show them only to people you approve, on request. Your card statement shows a neutral name, topishare, and its website is generic - no mention of SexPal or of dating.