What friends with benefits is
In Hebrew it's called yezizut. It's a connection that repeats: the same person, meeting as it suits you both, without the definitions of a relationship.
The advantage is familiarity: over time you know what the other person likes, and there's less first-meeting pressure. The challenge is keeping the agreements clear as it goes on.
How to keep FWB good
Agree on the rules up front. How often you meet, whether each of you is free to see others, protection and testing.
Check now and then that it still fits. Feelings change, and that's fine. If one of you wants more or less, better to say it early.
Respect at the end too. FWB can end without drama. A direct, respectful sentence is better than disappearing.
Safety and health
- First meeting in a public place. A café or a bar, and only later, if you both want, somewhere private.
- Tell a friend where you are and with whom, and agree on a short message when all is well.
- Get there and back on your own, so you can leave at any moment.
- Condoms, always. They are the main protection against STIs - carry your own, not only the other side. If you have several partners, get tested regularly.
- Discretion goes both ways. Don't send identifying photos before you trust the other person, and protect their privacy as you would want yours protected.
- Trust your gut. If something in the chat or the meeting doesn't feel right - pressure, stories that don't add up, a request for money - leave. No explanation needed.
Questions about Friends with benefits
What's the difference between FWB and a hookup?
A hookup is usually a one-off. With friends with benefits you meet the same person again and again, without being a couple.
What if one of us falls in love?
Talk about it. It happens, and it's no crime. The fair way is to say it simply and accept a no too, and if your expectations no longer match - end it with respect.
Can I have FWB with more than one person?
That depends on what you agreed. What matters is that the other person knows, and that protection and testing fit.
Does dating on SexPal stay discreet?
Yes. You appear under a nickname you choose, and your email address is never shown to any member. You can mark photos as private and show them only to people you approve, on request. Your card statement shows a neutral name, topishare, and its website is generic - no mention of SexPal or of dating.