What it means in practice
Casual sex isn't necessarily a one-off, and it isn't necessarily regular. It's an approach: a meeting whose goal is mutual pleasure, with no expectation of a relationship. Some people meet once; others find someone they enjoy being with and meet again now and then.
What makes it fun is the clarity: when both people know in advance that this is what they want, there's no guessing and no needless disappointment.
How to write a profile that gets matches
Write a few real sentences. What you like, the pace that suits you, when you're free. A profile with personal text gets far more replies than an empty one.
Be clear, not crude. You can say exactly what you want without explicit descriptions. It draws serious replies and keeps away people looking for something else.
A personal first message. Mention something from the other person's profile. A bare "hi" gets far fewer replies.
Safety and health
- First meeting in a public place. A café or a bar, and only later, if you both want, somewhere private.
- Tell a friend where you are and with whom, and agree on a short message when all is well.
- Get there and back on your own, so you can leave at any moment.
- Condoms, always. They are the main protection against STIs - carry your own, not only the other side. If you have several partners, get tested regularly.
- Discretion goes both ways. Don't send identifying photos before you trust the other person, and protect their privacy as you would want yours protected.
- Trust your gut. If something in the chat or the meeting doesn't feel right - pressure, stories that don't add up, a request for money - leave. No explanation needed.
Questions about Fun sex
What's the difference between casual sex and a hookup?
A hookup is usually a one-off. Casual sex is broader: a light meeting that can be a one-off or happen again, as long as you both enjoy it and aren't looking for a relationship.
How do I know the other person wants the same?
Ask. One simple sentence at the start of the chat - what you're looking for and what you're not - saves a lot of misunderstanding. And on SexPal every profile says what kind of connection the person wants.
Can I meet the same person again?
Of course. Many people find someone they enjoy being with and meet again. Just check now and then that you both still want the same thing.
Does dating on SexPal stay discreet?
Yes. You appear under a nickname you choose, and your email address is never shown to any member. You can mark photos as private and show them only to people you approve, on request. Your card statement shows a neutral name, topishare, and its website is generic - no mention of SexPal or of dating.